On the night
of December 20, 2006 I met a lady who had a very interesting conversation with
me that lasted for hours. This conversation is one of the best I’ve had with
ladies. I know you’ll agree with me after going through some of the words she
said to me:
“It’s nice
meeting you”
“I’m
enjoying this discussion”
“What’s your
best food?”
“You’re most
spectacular guy I’ve ever met”
“When I fall
in love, I fall crazily in love”
“If I love a
guy, I’ll let him know, because I can’t keep the strong desire burning in me”
“We’ll live
to remember this day”
“You’ve not
said goodnight to me”
Gosh! An
interesting conversation indeed and I know you would love to know what happened
after that night: nothing more than a simple friendship. The mistake most
people make is that they allow the obsession of a wonderful conversation grow
so strong within them that they get stuck in a relationship which virtually
ends in a marriage. The more obsessed one gets in a wonderful conversation with
an opposite sex, the greater the propensity to get stuck in a relationship with
that person. A wonderful conversation with an opposite sex is never a guarantee
to a wonderful marriage with such a person.
Another
mistake people make when making a decision of marriage is: marrying someone as
a result of a surge of pity for that person. On August 5, 2010 a lady prayed
earnestly to God concerning my personal needs without receiving a prayer request
from me. She prayed earnestly to the extent that she burst into tears and even
forgot to pray to God about her own personal needs. When I heard this I was
marveled. I began to imagine how someone would put the interest of another
above his or hers. The act of that lady is definitely one that can provoke
favor, but making a decision to marry her as a way to show reward would be
totally wrong! So in your search for a dream spouse wait patiently, believe
firmly in God’s will and timing and use the power of focus and observation.
The reason
why most people use the option of marriage as a reward to someone is that they
have not learnt the art of touching the emotion of people deeply with
surprises. Let your appreciation to someone not be predictable, always make surprises!
This was exactly what I did to a lady on July 8, 2010 that made her appreciated
me using the following words: “Leaves may forget the tree, waves may forget the
sea… or even you may forget me, but I’ll never forget you because you’re very special
to me! Thank you so much….” Those words came as a result of the surprise
package I gave her. If I had not she would have just ended with a mere ‘thank
you’.
